Man claims his sister is ‘erasing him’ after she announces her son’s name
When choosing a name for your child, there’s some basic research you should do.
It’s important to check that you’re not giving your future child a name that can attract cruel jokes.
So while it’s not the technique for everyone, lots of people like to announce their name to family ahead of the birth, to see what people think.
It can be upsetting to hear that they don’t like it, but occasionally they might have a valid point that you should consider.
Although at the end of the day, it’s up to the parents and no one else.
One man has asked for advice on Reddit’s Relationships forum after his sister announced her son’s name.
Ideally, he’d like her to change the name – and lots of people were on his side.
He explained: “Everyone is super excited. It’s my parent’s first grandchild so they threw this big drive by baby shower thing yesterday and afterwards we did a big family zoom.
“Well during the zoom they announced the babies name is going to be “Nathlynn” (It’s a boy) and they would be calling him “Nate”.
“Here’s the problem; my name is “Nathan” and I go by “Nate”. I honestly thought it was a joke or something at first but everyone else seemed to like it.
“After a while, I thought they were naming the kid after me but I am by no means someone worthy of a namesake yet.
“For a little background my sister and I were never very close, I’m the middle child of 7 (27m), (24f), (20f), me, (13f), (13m), (8f), and I typically keep to myself. So I’m kinda starting to think everyone forgot about me as far as names go.
“This happened last night and I haven’t mentioned it to anyone except some friends. I don’t want it to seem like I’m making it all about me, and to be fair it’s not exactly the same name.
“But I think it would isolate me from my family, we’re very close so it would be like have a brother with the same name as me. when people talk about “Nate” it’s always going to be the baby, it’s like they’re erasing me.
“But Idk should I ask her to change it? All advice is appreciated :)”
Lots of Redditors saw where the man was coming from – and suggested he talk to his sister.
One commented: “You shouldn’t ask her to change it but you should point it out and see if she has a change of heart. That’s really strange, it is like they didn’t think of you at all.”
Another advised: “I feel like it’s not unreasonable to ask. Tell her how you feel, and why it’s important. I can absolutely see where you are coming from and I hope she does too. There is nothing wrong with asking.”
A third said: “With a family of 7 kids there is a ton of potential for people to grow up and have kids and have multiple names or similar names in the family.
“I wouldn’t worry about this. Who knows what they are thinking. The kid will decide what he wants to be called when he’s old enough anyway. Is there a chance this name has a connection for your sister’s husband?
“What kind of name is Nathlynn, are they combining things with significance to them?”